I do not celebrate culture created holidays. None of them.

I celebrate each day, all 365 of them, and find ways to make them beautiful and special. If I desire to give someone a beautifully wrapped gift on any given day outside of a holiday or birthday, I will do so and have done so.

Why? Because I don’t need society’s prompts to tell me when to enjoy family, or show/express love to someone with a gift. As an example, I abhor Valentine’s Day because it shows me that it requires commercials and advertising and marketing for my loved one to remember me in tangible ways. They need the prompt of a day and millions of people following suite on that day to remember (or show) what i mean to them. I do not care what other women (or men) think about that day. It is an insult to ME and how I want to be loved and remembered.

I want to be loved on random days, when nothing special is happening except my lover remembering his love for me. Give me a gift wrapped present while we sit on the beach in our bathing suits. Or while I’m standing in the shower on any given day. Give me a gift wrapped present while I’m in the kitchen cooking, hands dirty, back tight from the work of mixing and kneading. And when I ask what it is for, tell me, simply, “Because you are beautiful inside.”

Remember me because you need to, not because someone told you to. Allow remembering me to become as natural as breathing.

Don’t buy me a diamond. They are cheap soul gifts. Everyone wants them because they’ve been told they are rare. I am far more rare than a diamond. See my unique worth, my soul worth, the worth without a price tag, but a soul tag. Buy me a Lemurian Seed crystal ring, or an Azurite ring, something no one else would think to do, because you see ME and that I deserve (need) something outside of the cultural norm. Or, even more precious than crystals, invite me for a walk through the park, simply because you want to hold a space with my energy, just us, sharing presence. Don’t follow the crowd, follow my heart. Find the authentic me in the midst of the social construct and reach me there. Why? Because I don’t want to be your Valentine. I want to be the woman you see, soul naked and true, wanting love, not things.

I am not a holiday. I am a person. My needs are not confined to 10 – 20 moments on a calendar, that calendar that so many flock to to find camaraderie and…love…family…connection. Some seek the calendar even to find themselves. I do not live there. Never will.

I am connected everyday, in every moment, and want to live that with people who see that my worth is outside of time; outside the confines of the contrivances of limited humans who believe a day on a calendar is what I’m worth.

So on this day, I will not say happy holidays, or merry anything. I don’t need to. I give love everyday. I show those whom I love their worth everyday. I wish people well 365 days of the year. Today is just another day for me, and like all others, it is a moment for love in all its forms. So today, I say, I love you. I loved you yesterday. I will love you tomorrow. And I hope two weeks from now you wrap a small gift for your lover, your friend or your child. Or spend a day with them, just because they deserve it.

Don’t allow a calendar to trap your love within the confines of a day. Love fiercely each day…and SHOW it.

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